Hearing you child say, “I hate myself”, “I am so stupid”, or “No body likes me” can be heart breaking and alarming.
What your children says out loud gives you a window into what they are thinking – their ‘”"'Truth-talk"'”’. You know they are engaging in negative ‘”"'Truth-talk"'”’ when you hear things like: “I’m never going to get this!” or “I hate school!” Sometimes it’s not what they way out load, but you may notice self-defeating, subtle facial expressions or mumbles under their breath. There are so many ways to change the negative ‘”"'Truth-talk"'”’ in your house and help your children replace their negative thinking with positive ‘”"'Truth-talk"'”’.
Here are some in home strategies to decrease negative ‘”"'Truth-talk"'”’:
* Listen to free ‘”"'Truth-talk"'”’ downloads. As you take them to school and as they go to sleep let them hear the ‘”"'Truth-talk"'”’ that will make them into the person God created them to be. Truth Wins Free "'Truth-Talk"' Download
* Love yourself! Treat yourself like a best friend. How you talk about yourself becomes a model that you children will follow.
* Praise. Seek out opportunities to praise your son or daughter for achievements or good behavior. Find ways to praise your children when talking to others – especially if your child is in earshot, but not a part of your conversation.
* Get Sassy! Encourage your child to be THE BOSS of their negative voice and TALK BACK to it! When your negative voice tells you “You’re not going to do well on this test” don’t let it take your confidence away!! Tell that voice, “I’m a good learner. I’m going to try my best. If I try my best, I’ll do okay.”
But most of all here is a list of things children love to hear their parents say:
Your mind will always believe everything you tell it, truth or a lie. (more…)
